Healing Together: 4 Strategies to Support Survivors Through Trauma Therapy and Treatment
What is Trauma?
Trauma is a distressing and overwhelming experience that can have a lasting effect on a person’s mental, emotional, and physical health. According to the National Council for Mental Wellbeing (2022), 70% of adults in the United States have experienced at least one traumatic event in their lifetime. Trauma can stem from various sources including accidents, natural disasters, abuse, loss, violence, war and combat, medical and health interventions, bullying, and cultural and generational experiences. Trauma is commonly thought to be the event itself, however, trauma is actually defined by one’s reaction to an event. This makes trauma tricky to pinpoint because what may be traumatic for one person, may not be traumatic for another.
Trauma symptoms and treatment can be as unique as the individual who’s experiencing them. Trauma may leave an individual feeling fearful, hopeless, disassociated, depressed, anxious, angry, enraged, numb, embarrassed, ashamed, and/or isolated. Often, people feel a large range of emotions in the wake of a traumatic experience, which can add to their struggle and confusion on how to best cope. Additionally, trauma frequently has physical manifestations such as headaches, stomachaches, nightmares, flashbacks, heart palpitations, and changes in appetite.
Unfortunately, there are many misconceptions surrounding trauma, such as the belief that people should "just get over it" or that trauma always manifests in obvious ways. In reality, trauma can linger beneath the surface, affecting thoughts, behaviors, and emotions long after the event has passed. This misunderstanding can make it challenging for survivors to seek the support they need.
Support System 101
Recovering from trauma is also an individualized experience and people who are processing traumatic events will have a variety of needs and preferences. For many survivors, a strong support system is a crucial part of navigating their trauma processing. Having a support system of friends and family can provide a sense of safety and connection and help the individual feel less alone. Knowing that they have people who genuinely care about their well-being can offer comfort and reassurance. However, being a supportive friend requires sensitivity, patience, and understanding. As a clinician offering trauma therapy in DC, I not only work with trauma survivors, but also their loved ones. I often hear in sessions, “I just have no idea what to do to help them”. When you’re a loved one, or part of the support network for someone who’s experienced or experiencing trauma, it’s normal to not know “what to do”. Now, more than ever it felt like the time to offer four key strategies to support a friend or loved one who may be navigating the layers and complications associated with trauma.
4 Practical Tips to Offer Support:
Respect Their Boundaries
Trauma survivors may need time and space to process their experiences. It is essential to respect their boundaries and not pressure them to talk or engage in activities they are not ready for. Some days, they may want to open up, while on other days, they may need solitude. Avoid making assumptions about what they need and instead allow them to set the pace for interactions and for their healing journey.
Focus on Their Needs
When supporting a loved one through trauma, it is crucial to center their needs rather than what you believe is best for them. Everyone copes differently, and what works for one person may not work for another. Pay attention to their cues and let them guide the conversation or activities that bring them comfort. Offering support without imposing solutions is key. Phrases like "How can I support you right now?" or "What would be most helpful for you?" empower them to express their needs and allow you to provide meaningful support. By giving them a voice in their healing journey, you help reinforce their sense of control and agency.
Check In on Them
Trauma can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection. Regularly checking in on your friend shows that you care and that they are not alone in their struggles. Even a simple message saying "Thinking about you today.” can go a long way in making them feel seen and supported. Be consistent and genuine, but also allow them space if they need it.
Be Open to Listening and Talking About Hard Things
Many trauma survivors fear burdening others with their pain, leading them to stay silent and internalize much of their pain. As a friend, you can create a safe space by being open to listening without judgment. Let them know that you are there for them, whether they need to vent, cry, or sit in silence. Avoid offering unsolicited advice, sharing your experiences, or trying to "fix" their situation—sometimes, they just need someone to listen.
Remember that there is not one “perfect” or “right” way to show up for a loved one. Whether a loved one or friend if finding support through in-person or online trauma therapy, remember that you still hold a critical role in being part of their support system. Honor this role, while also being gentle with yourself in the process. If you’re experiencing trauma, or its aftermath, or supporting someone who is, reach out to our team today! The Sterling Group offers the best trauma therapy for young adults with leading evidence-based approaches in the field like EMDR and Internal Family Systems Therapy. No matter where you are in your journey, remember that help, healing, and hope are all possible!
About The Author
Shelby’s therapeutic approach is one of a true partnership, where the therapeutic relationship matters most. Creating a safe space where an individual’s most authentic self can shine is what she prides herself on. As a former teacher turned therapist, she’s well-versed in the challenges of navigating so much change through young adulthood. She specializes in trauma, grief, TF-CBT, and group therapy– being the lead therapist on TSG’s first group therapy offerings.
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