Three women relaxing on a blanket in the grass, embracing Valentine's Day with laughter and good vibes among friends.

February can be a tough hang. It’s cold. It’s still dark. And just when you thought the holidays were over, a trip to your local CVS becomes a full-on romantic assault, serving yet another reminder of what you don’t have: a partner.

This holiday can feel like it holds a magnifying glass to what’s missing, and single people who want to be in a relationship often feel like they are falling short of a societal expectation to be coupled and in love. But maybe it’s time to take back this holiday and stop internalizing an archaic and boring belief that being single means you can’t or shouldn’t celebrate love. Valentine’s Day isn’t just for romantic partners, and you don’t need to be in a relationship to be in love.

A woman drawing a heart on a window, reflecting on the upcoming Valentine’s Day without a partner.

You might be thinking “Psh yeah okay I don’t need this artificial candy-coated holiday to celebrate my love for someone- I can do that whenever.” And to that I say “Totally…But why not?!” How often are we actually taking the time out of our lives to sincerely celebrate and express how we feel about the people we care about? Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the stress and anxiety of what we don’t have, that we forget all the wonderful people and things that are right in front of us. Harvard Medical School wrote an article about how expressing love increases dopamine in our brain and gives us energy. So, let’s celebrate in the name of science!

If you’re still with me, you might now be thinking “Okay yeah but I don’t want to get a whack teddy bear and a carton of those chalky heart candies for my adult friend”. And to that I say “Don’t worry Susan- I’ve got you covered”. Walk with me…We’re celebrating love creatively and in style this season. Also, Valentine’s Day isn’t just about showing love to your besties, this is about loving YOU. Here are some ideas to get you started:

1.Book a Solo or Couple’s Spa with Your BFF

Take advantage of the Valentine’s day deals and get yourself and your friend a massage and/or facial. Lounge in an infrared sauna. I’m talking hot tub and champagne baby. Treat. Your. Self. When it’s cold and snowy nothing feels better than letting heat relax the tension in your body. Looking for a more affordable option? Put together your own spa night with all the amenities you want (sheet masks are imperative) and gossip the night away.

2.Get Crafty

For my creatively inclined girlies: this is your time to shine! Whip out the crafting box and make some sick handmade cards for the people you care about. Prefer to bake?

Make some ooey gooey homemade brownies/cookies/rice crispy treats to bring into the office. Nothing says I love you better than a homemade dessert. Don’t feel like baking? Grab a dozen doughnuts from Dunkin’ and call it a day.

Single woman joyfully stretches her arms on a car hood, embracing self-care during her Valentine’s Day weekend getaway.

3.Get Outta Dodge

Plan a fun Valentine’s Day weekend getaway with a friend, family member, or by yourself. Maybe go somewhere new and focus on self-care and novel activities like a cooking class or an art museum.

4.Dinner and a Movie

If you haven’t experienced the self-possessed pleasure of going to a movie theater solo, know that you’re missing out. Whether you're single or coupled, dating yourself is so fun because it’s a reminder that no matter what you can enjoy your own company. After dinner, take yourself to a nice restaurant. Bring a good friend or a good book. Don’t forget to order dessert.

5.Binge-Watch Sex and the City

All six seasons are on Netflix. Order in from your favorite Chinese takeout and make yourself a Cosmo. Watch alone, with your BFF, or sibling. I might be putting myself out of the job here, but no one will make you feel less depressed about dating than Carrie Bradshaw. You’re welcome.

A woman happily creating a flower arrangement on Valentine’s Day, celebrating love beyond romance.

6.Make a Flower Arrangement for Yourself or a Friend

Find your favorite flowers, summon your inner florist, and make a beautiful arrangement for yourself or for another single friend. You don’t need to be in a romantic relationship to give people flowers! Surround yourself in beautiful things this Valentine’s Day. Think about a special gift that would make you smile and send that very thing to someone you’re grateful for. It will make you feel good.

7.Take Some Time to Reflect on Your Definition of True Love…

The idea that love is only represented by expensive gifts or is reserved solely for those in relationships fails to capture the true meaning of the word. Love isn't defined by material gifts, nor does it leave out those who are alone or lonely. True love exists everywhere and in everything. It is the connection we have with ourselves, our fur babies, our friends, our family, our coworkers, and our estheticians.

This Valentine’s Day, let’s celebrate being alive and the ability to do what you love by yourself or with the people you love.

If you would like some extra support this season and are having a hard time dealing with the disappointment of the DC dating scene, the Sterling Group is here to help. We have individual therapists and a brand-new group called Love & Letdowns led by the wonderful, Shelby Allen. In this relationships-focused group therapy, group members will explore the emotional challenges of dating and work together to build healthy relationships.

About the Author:

Sally Charendoff is a licensed clinical social worker who is passionate about working with young adults struggling with a range of concerns like ADHD, anxiety, depression, relationships, and self-esteem. She’s authentic, interactive, and curious in her approach and strives to create a safe and trusting therapeutic space for clients to heal, grow, and integrate lasting changes into their lives. If you’re struggling with the impacts of ADHD on your self-esteem, or a gamut of difficulties relating to young adulthood and transitions, Sally is here to help you create a fulfilling, more balanced, and even a joyful life!

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All My Single Ladies: 7 Creative Ideas to Celebrate Love This Valentine’s Day